有一天去买菜的路上，脑海里冒出一句话：生活就是在具体的框架里做具体的事。
具体的菜市场，具体的茴香根和牛大骨，具体的关门时间迫在眉睫，还有具体的雨点子砸在头上。
又到了每年最难熬的的二三月份。
一月份通常好一点，通常刚刚放完寒假，带着从国内充满电的身体和充满食物的行李箱，平静的不开心但依然食欲满满。
二月份就会开始逐渐走下坡路，这里还是在冬天，还是大概率灰蒙蒙的天和下不完的雨。今年的二月悲喜交加，好的部分是工作上接了新项目，前俩月卷出了去年半年的工作成果。悲伤的是2026早睡计划完全落空，一月份远程开美国的会，每天夜里熬到两点半。二月份远程开印度的会，每天早上三点半爬起来，有一天早上十点左右抱着电脑就昏睡过去了。好在没耽误什么事情，音频接不进去的时候放重金属也没被会场听到，因此也没社死。
所以今年的二月都要过完了，我还没顾得上抑郁，大概就是因为忙吧。忙着做具体的事情。
理论上咱们还是娴熟掌握的：用高强度工作来对抗抑郁不具有可持续性。在忙碌的时候，所有的情绪都会被积压在角落里，顾不上处理。在稍微松弛下来的时候，后台积压的bug太多了，会有一下子蹦出来无数bug从而死机的风险。所以为了预防死机，上周放了两天假。并且整整一周没有做饭，都在外面吃。如此这般，整个人还是感觉比较麻。单说除夕，也为了庆祝吃了漂亮饭，也拍照了，也跟大家一样庆祝了，但那种喜悦感是没有的，甚至累了个把月那种犒劳自己 I deserve的感觉也没有。大概因为漂亮饭还是不够具体吧。
哦对，刚意识到我忘了给自己买新年礼物。忘记的原因大概是因为没有什么购物欲吧。最近我买的最多的应该是毛线。织毛衣和买毛线是两种爱好（哈哈哈哈）。
其实织毛衣就是在具体的框架下做具体的事情。你必须要有框架，你必须要实实在在的织每一针，你必须不能半途而废。如果以上都实现，你必然会得到具体的成果。买毛线就是另一件事了。买毛线买的不是一种实物，而是无限的可能性，无限的imagination！这一点会让现在的我稍微开心一下，就是死水微澜那种程度的开心。
最后想提一部最近百忙之中看的片子，叫「情感价值」。不是情绪价值啊，如果有人被片名劝退那我要澄清一下，不是一码事。如果这部片子只看到父女和解这个层面还是那还是有点遗憾的。我喜欢的部分在于，它从微观下的普通人的具体问题入手，提升到历史层面的宏大叙事，最后又不是为了升华而升华，而是回落到了普通人最普通的情感。跌宕起伏。好看。
人为什么会感到孤独，绝望，迷茫？
某些情况下是因为没有一个具体的锚点，一个与当前世界 – 这个具体框架 – 的连接点。
具体很重要，框架也很重要。
2026年的第一件事，好好吃饭，第二件事，好好睡觉，第N件事，写这篇公众号，都是具体的小事。都是好事。
One day, on my way to groceries, a sentence popped into my head: Life is about doing specific things within a specific framework.
Specific markets, specific fennel roots and beef bones, specific closing time is appoaching , and specific raindrops falling on my head.
It’s that time of year again, the most difficult months of the year, February and March.
January is usually a little better. Usually, winter break has just ended, and I’m carrying a fully charged body from China and a fully charged lugguge full of food—calmly unhappy, but still with a full appetite.
February, however, begins to gradually decline. It’s still winter here, and the sky is likely to be overcast with endless rain. This February was a mix of joy and sorrow. The good part was that I took on a new project at work, and the first two months yielded half a year’s worth of work. The sad part was that my 2026 early-to-bed plan completely fell through. In January, I was attending remote meetings in the US, staying up until 2:30 every night. In February, I was attending remote meetings in India, getting up at 3:30 every morning, and one morning I fell asleep around 10 am with my laptop on my belly 😀 Thankfully, nothing went wrong. Even when the audio connection failed, playing heavy metal didn’t get heard by the venue, so I didn’t completely collapse.
So, February is almost over, and I haven’t even had time to think about depression, probably because I’ve been busy.
Busy with concrete tasks.
Theoretically, we’ve mastered the principle that using high-intensity work to combat depression isn’t sustainable. When busy, all emotions are bottled up and can’t be dealt with. When I relax a little, there are too many bugs piling up in the backend, posing a risk of a system crash due to a sudden influx of bugs. So, to prevent a crash, I took two days off last week. And I didn’t cook for a whole week, eating out the whole time. Even so, I still feel quite numb. Take New Year’s Eve, for example. I ate a nice meal to celebrate, took photos, and celebrated like everyone else, but I didn’t feel that joy, not even that “I deserve” feeling of rewarding myself after a month of hard work. Probably because a nice meal isn’t concrete enough.
Oh right, I just realized I forgot to buy myself a New Year’s gift. The reason I forgot is probably because I don’t have much of a shopping urge. Lately, I’ve been buying mostly yarn. Knitting and buying yarn are two different hobbies (ahahaha).
Knitting is essentially doing something concrete within a specific framework. You need a specific framework, you need to knit every stitch specifically, and you can’t give up halfway. If all of these are achieved, you will get concrete results.
Buying yarn is a completely different matter. Buying yarn isn’t about buying a physical object, but about buying infinite possibilities, infinite imagination! This makes me a little happier right now, a kind of quiet, gentle happiness.
Finally, I want to mention a film I recently watched during my busy schedule, called “Sentimental Value.” Not “emotional value,” though. If anyone is put off by the title, I want to clarify that they are not the same thing. If you only see the father-daughter reconciliation aspect of this film, then it’s a bit of a too little. What I liked was that it starts with the specific problems of ordinary people on a micro level, elevates them to a grand historical narrative, and ultimately doesn’t aim for elevation for its own sake, but rather returns to the most ordinary emotions of ordinary people. It’s dramatic and engaging. A good film.
Why do people feel lonely, hopeless, and lost?
In some cases, it’s because they lack a concrete anchor, a connection to the current world—this specific framework.
Specificity is important, and so is the framework.
The first thing in 2026: eat well. The second thing: sleep well. The N-th thing: write this article. These are all concrete little things. They are all good things.